The search for self confidence is one that a great many of us struggle with. It ebbs and flows depending on what we are going through in our lives and how we feel about ourselves. But, despite the hill we climb to better ourselves and embrace ourselves, it can sometimes feel unobtainable.
It’s important to be kind to yourself as you embark on this journey of self discovery. Among the many different ways we can honor ourselves and work towards having self confidence - there is one thing many don’t think to utilize. Self pleasure! Pleasure is a powerful tool that can unlock a great many different levels of self confidence within ourselves.
Changes In Your Mind and Body That Promote Self Confidence
When you indulge in self pleasure, whether it’s with your hands, toys, or with a partner - you release happiness hormones! These hormones (serotonin, dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin) can assist with stress relief, good sleep, relaxation, overall mood, and your connection with others and yourself. It’s similar to that of a really good workout.
Beyond the chemical reactions in your body, there’s quite a bit that goes on in your mind as well. When you take time to indulge in self pleasure as a way of self care you are connecting with yourself and putting your pleasure first. Putting your own self on that pedestal as you bring positive sensations to your body instead of denying yourself that attention and love builds confidence in what you like and what you want. The more you know what you like and want, the more likely it will be that you can comfortably express that to others in a great many different areas in life.
Celebrate Your Body!
Don’t hide your body away, celebrate it! This body takes you through each and every day. It’s there for you through it all and beyond that, it’s the only one you get! Giving it attention and pleasure is your right and benefits all parts of you.
When our bodies and minds feel good it translates to how we project these feelings. Often that’s with self confidence and comfort in our own skin. Connecting with yourself by way of self pleasure allows you to honor your body, embrace new sensations, and feel sexy! Confidence is an easy byproduct of those combined benefits.
Toys I Would Recommend For Beginners
If you are not sure where to start in regards to your pleasure journey, here are some fantastic, body-safe options to begin!
For Partners Or Solo Play - Anyone
The Wellness Palm Sense is a powerful, ergonomic vibe that fits perfectly in the palm of your hand. It can be used anywhere on the body for external pleasure, even if that’s just a massage!
The Wellness Palm Sense Vibe turns your hand into a strong, 10-function massager using the powerful Rumble Tech™ motor. The finger fin slips easily between your fingers for a firm grasp and accessibility during use. Press the smooth, cushy silicone vibe body against your most sensitive zones for powerful massaging using the two powerful motors and dual massaging points. The Palm Sense is easy to hold and perfect for solo or partner assistance! Palm Sense is USB rechargeable, plus IPX7 waterproof for easy cleaning and use in the bath or shower. UltraSilk ™ smooth and made of Puria ™ silicone, this toy is silky, body-safe and phthalate free.
For Internal Stimulation
The Avant D1 - Hot ‘n’ Cool is great for G or P spot stimulation. There’s a whole bunch of incredible shapes and colors in this collection, all body-safe and great for anyone!
Modern, stylish, and beautiful - meet Avant. Crafted with care and with your pleasure in mind, enjoy the natural, hand-sculpted forms knowing that you’ve purchased a unique artisanal toy. Whatever sizes, shapes, curves, or textures you desire, you’re sure to find your match. Avant D1 boasts elegant curves and a pleasingly broad head. All Avant dildos are non-porous, boilable, and easy to clean. They warm with your body or by running under warm water. They are harness compatible and feature a deep, strong suction cup. Ultrasilk™ smooth and made with Puria™ platinum-cured silicone.
For Vulva and Clitoris Dual Stimulation
Hop Oh Bunny has a long, ergonomic clitoral attachment that’s perfect for all body types and extended reach. It delivers powerful internal G spot stimulation and external clitoral air pulsation.
Seductively powerful, the Hop Oh Bunny brings new air pulsation technology to a traditional rabbit design. The Oh Bunny features 10 functions and a flexible clitoral arm that bends for perfect positioning around the clitoris. The 10 powerful vibrating functions and 10 air pulse speeds can be controlled independently. UltraSilk™ smooth and made with Puria™ platinum-cured silicone, the Hop Oh Bunny is body safe, phthalate-free, IPX7 waterproof and easy to clean. USB rechargeable, eco friendly, and no batteries required.
For Penis StimulationM Elite Platinum Gript is great for beginners and seasoned players alike. It’s body-safe, squeezable, and delivers incredible sensations (so I hear!). It’s a favorite in our household!
The M for Men Gript is loaded with fun! There are pleasure ridges along the multiple zones of texture and the internal ticklers are perfect for experiencing varying sensations during stroking. Super-soft and flexible, Gript will fit all shaft sizes and enables self-squeezing and applied pressure during play to compliment all your desired pleasure. Made of body-safe Purio™ Platinum-Cured Silicone, Gript is free of phthalates, fragrances, paraffins, and latex. Gript also comes with a lint-free storage pouch to keep it safe and discreet!
Written by Tawney Seren, sex educator, blogger & author.