The BDSM community has grown exponentially each year as more and more couples start their journey! Perhaps you’re looking to get started with your partner but have no idea what role you would play. Maybe you have a general idea but are looking for more ways to embrace your role. Whatever the case, knowing that your preferences and role can shift and change along your journey is important!
25 BDSM categories are all outlined in this fun BDSM quiz. This quiz can help you further define your likes & comforts in the bedroom, and help you learn more about your sexual preferences. Even if you’re experienced with BDSM, there is always more that you can discover! All BDSM acts with your partner must be fully discussed ahead of time and with a safe word in place to provide optimal comfort.
Below is a warm-up quiz to get you started!
In the Bedroom, I Most Enjoy:
A.) Being told what to do and guided by my partner
B.) Someone being turned on by the control I have over them
C.) Someone experiencing arousal from delivering pain or humiliation to me
D.) A flow and switch of power-play dynamics depending on the mood
The Idea of The Following Turns Me On Most:
A.) Experiencing consensual pain delivered by my partner
B.) Delivering consensual pain to my partner for pleasure
C.) The idea of being used by my partner for whatever brings them pleasure
D.) Less interest in pain, more interest in the idea of sensation play or restriction of movement
Would You Enjoy Being Restrained?
A.) Yes, if it was done by my partner
B.) I would prefer to be the one restraining another person. I am in charge.
C.) Not just restrained, but slapped, spanked, or degraded as well
D.) Restraint is not a necessity or interest to me
Does Role Playing in the Bedroom Interest You?
A.) I would prefer to be guided by my partner or play a more submissive role
B.) If I am in charge, I would try it
C.) I would be most interested if the role that I play has pain inflicted upon them
D.) I would be willing to discuss it, but roleplay does not necessarily turn me on
Before reading the results it’s important to remind yourself that your preferences can change during the act of BDSM and that’s okay! This is a generalized test to give you a direction to begin and having a conversation with your partner about both of your needs and desires is key in a healthy BDSM dynamic.
If You Were Mostly A’s:
Submissive Leaning: You are interested in pleasing your partner and want to have them in charge. Being in a more submissive role is what makes you the most turned on. Be sure to converse with your partner about how far you are comfortable giving control to them and what hard limits you have. If your partner leans Dominant, it can be fun to shop for collars, restraints, and spanking tools that you’d like them to try out on you!
If You Were Mostly B’s:
Dominant Leaning: You are most turned on by the idea of taking control of your partner in the bedroom. You are willing to try new things, but primarily if they keep you in the position of dominant or you are the one delivering the new sensations. Take things slowly and in stride to best acclimate your partner! It’s also always important to familiarize yourself with the aftercare your partner (and you) need after play!
If You Were Mostly C’s:
S&M Focused: The thought of enduring pain and humiliation turns you on the most. This is also a submissive leaning role and there are many different ways in which this can be utilized. Perhaps the idea of others seeing your pain is what turns you on the most! Perhaps you’d like to keep it private but want to be made to grovel or be humiliated. Whatever the case, sadomasochistic interactions are where you want to focus. Ensure you tell your partner all that you desire and make sure they know you will not take these things personally outside the bedroom.
If You Were Mostly D’s:
Experimental Focused: You are interested in exploring all things that bring you both pleasure and are open to switching roles and actions within the bedroom depending on mood and preferences. If you are the one role-playing the teacher or boss, so be it! If you’re a maid or student, that’s just fine as well! It’s all about trying most things and finding what you both enjoy the most.
In the world of BDSM, exploration and understanding are key. Taking the BDSM Personality Quiz is just the beginning of your journey into a world of trust, communication, and pleasure. Whether you're discovering your dominant or submissive side, or perhaps finding a balance between the two, this quiz is designed to spark conversations and ignite curiosity!
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