Sure it’s 98 degrees out with 55% humidity but what’s the climate in your bedroom been like this summer? We rolled up our sleeves to bring you some ways to bring the spicy back and turn up the heat (while your AC is blasting to maintain the chill, obvi).
Before we get into any must-have accessories, let’s start with the basics. A foundation of strong communication is mandatory for intimacy. If you and your partner have been feeling a little less connected then you need to start with a warm, open dialogue. Sometimes this can be as simple as saying “On Friday night, let’s make an early dinner and take the time to reset our goals for how we make love and connect.” As you enter that chat, be sure to be direct but affectionate and establish your goals.
With your intimacy deepened, now onto the hot stuff! These toys are a must for heating things up. Try one, use something similar in your collection, or buy them all for a guaranteed fun end to the summer (& beyond):
This vibrating toy can be used on any body part to add a tickly, little bit of extra stimulation. Rest the vibe on your fingers for use on the penis or vulva to reach climax quicker.
Take charge and put yourself in the driver’s seat. Blindfolding your partner to arouse the senses is a fiery way to build excitement through light sensory deprivation. Introduce soft fabrics and feathers to tease and play or temperature changes to increase anticipation.
Cockrings can be a secret ingredient to lasting longer and staying harder in bed. While they should only be used for about 20 minutes at a time, they come in handy while you’re building up anticipation. Vibrating cockrings are great for partner play where both partners experience total stimulation.
Whether you have a penis and have dabbled in P-spot play or you’re just intrigued by some back-door attention, butt plugs are the perfect toy for discovery. Use them to achieve different sensations like rimming and temperature play. Once you’ve mastered the use of butt plugs, we suggest turning it up a notch: try wearing one before you head out for date night to build anticipation between you and your partner. Maybe you’ll skip dessert and rush home instead!
Dildos are the perfect companion when you’re ready to unlock new levels of pleasure. With so many varieties of dildo designs, textures, and materials to choose from, you can really discover what works best for you and your partner(s). And If harness exploration is interesting to you make sure to pick a dildo that’s compatible, like the Luxe Cici.
Don’t be scared to try on a wearable sleeve to add girth, textures, or length to give your partner a brand new experience. The wearer can build stamina to last longer by decreasing sensation to their member. Although the sleeve is an add-on, the wearer will still be able to significantly feel their partner.
Skipping foreplay in the bedroom is like trying to cook pasta without waiting for the water to boil! If this is you, incorporating a manual masturbator with your partner can create extra sensations with less effort from the one doing the teasing. If edging is a part of your sexual practice, this toy can be another accessory to elevate your climax.
Keep the lights off and whip out a glow-in-the-dark dildo for some unexpected excitement. Doesn’t matter if you have a black light or not, glow-in-the-dark dildos can “charge” up in the sun. So set this little party buddy up on the window sill to prepare for night play.
Introduce some light BDSM into your bedroom with a toy where you can fully control sensations. The flinch crop is perfect to use for delivering a variety of sensations from soft to stingy. Material matters and this particular whip is made from soft vegan leather— yummy!
Safely and confidently test the waters of nipple play with adjustable nipple clamps. Experience dual sensations of the faux fur bunny tail and the clamps for hands free stimulation.
We hope this list helps reignite the spark between you and your partner! Remember that exploration should be fun and communication should always stay open. Patiently discovering what works for you and your partner can create a fiery connection to last beyond the bedroom. With these tips and toys the heat between you is sure to stay lit well past the hot summer days!