Doesn’t shower sex look so effortless in movies? The steamy glass, water dripping down, two bodies moving in perfect rhythm. But in real life? It’s usually more slippery than sexy. The good news is: with the right prep, it can live up to the fantasy.
We spoke with sex educator Tawney Seren, who shared her insider tips for making shower sex unforgettable. Here’s what she recommends for keeping it safe, sensual, and seriously satisfying!
Let’s get this out of the way: water washes everything away, including your body’s natural lubrication. That means what starts off smooth can turn into friction fast. The fix? A lube that’s designed to keep up.
Tawney’s tip: “Water-based lubes are safe for toys and bodies, just apply before you get in and reapply as needed.” Blush’ Water-Based Lube keeps things silky without feeling sticky, and won’t interfere with any toy materials.
If you’re craving a little more visual fun, this Glow in the Dark Green Dildo adds an unexpected, playful edge. It’s firm, body-safe, and lights up under dim, steamy conditions which is proof that even practical prep can feel exciting.
Slipping isn’t sexy. Use a shower mat or grab bar so you’re not one wrong move away from a bruise or a story you don’t want to tell. The same rule applies to whatever’s in your hand — choose something compact, waterproof, and easy to control.
The Aria Sensual AF Finger Vibe slides comfortably onto your finger for precision stimulation that won’t slip away when things get slick. It’s perfect for tracing curves, teasing your partner, or adding just the right amount of vibration mid-makeout.
Temperature play starts the second you turn the faucet on. Let the heat run over your shoulders while your partner’s hands explore — or swap roles and let them take in the view. That mix of warmth, scent, and skin contact? That’s foreplay in motion.
For a gentle, eco-conscious twist, the Eco Love Plant-Based Mini Vibe brings sustainable pleasure to your shower routine. Made from plant-based materials and designed for comfort, it’s small enough for discreet teasing while still packing a powerful buzz.
Too hot? Cool it down. Alternating between warm and cool water can heighten sensitivity and make every touch feel new again.
You don’t need penetration to have great shower sex. Mutual masturbation, oral, and external play often feel better (and safer) when things are wet.
Tawney says: “Showers are amazing for exploring texture and rhythm. Focus on how it feels: the water, your partner’s skin, the contrast of temperature, instead of rushing toward orgasm.”
Standing face-to-face looks good in movies but isn’t always realistic in the shower. Try mixing it up:
The best part of shower sex? You’re already halfway clean. Take a few extra minutes to soap up together, touch, or just breathe. Then step out, dry off, and move somewhere softer.
With the right prep, a little lube, and a few waterproof essentials, shower can become one of the most sensual, connected ways to start, or end your day.
