Are you looking to achieve a blended orgasm? They are easier than you think! This article will explain in detail the instructions for a spectacular blended orgasm and what toys would be best to use to accomplish this kind of ah-mazing experience.
What is a blended orgasm and how can I achieve one?
A blended orgasm is defined as an orgasm in which more than one erogenous zone is stimulated at a time resulting in simultaneous climax. An example of this would be clitoral and vaginal orgasm that happens at the same time. It is two concurrent orgasms that result in a more intense and full body experience. It is recommended that you relax and go in with the intention of achieving pleasure and not specifically a type of orgasm as you begin to explore how to bring about the blended O.
Blended orgasms take you to the next level of orgasmic bliss, and take a little bit of practice (and patience) to achieve! Getting familiar with your terrain is paramount to achieving a blended orgasm.
So now that we know a blended orgasm is a combination of more than one erogenous zone stimulated at a time, what are the steps we take to have one?
To start, clitoral orgasms usually come faster because that area is so accessible and is usually the most familiar to those with vulvas. On their own, clitoral orgasms are often felt on the surface of the body, like a tingly feeling on your skin and an intense burst of pleasure! Most of the clitoris is internal and isn’t visible. The bit of the clitoris that can be seen is about the size of a pea! The clitoris is found at the top of the vulva at the point where the labia meet, underneath the fold of skin known as the clitoral hood.
It’s important to know what kind of stimulation your clitoris likes, this will make it a little easier when trying to achieve a blended orgasm. If you’re not sure, experiment! From pressure waves directly on the clitoris to straight up vibration to stimulate, you want to find the sensation that feels the best for you.
G-spot orgasms, (the G-spot is the dime-sized pleasure point behind the vaginal wall) are considered much more intense because they reverberate from inside your body and are usually harder to reach and or become familiar with. This spot gets bigger when aroused, so you can find it better when you’re turned on. It is about two inches in and one inch up from inside the vagina. That being said, everyone is different. You might need to go an inch up or to the right or left. This will take exploration and is best done with your fingers.
When the G-spot is stimulated, it pushes against the mons pubis, which pushes against the clitoris and clitoral ligaments, which causes pleasure and an orgasm. It’s recommended as you begin your mission to find the G-spot, you insert your fingers 2 or 3 inches up, curving the fingers, and then rocking them towards the belly button. There's no specific texture you’re looking for when locating the G-spot. The best way to find it is to experiment! The G-spot orgasm is an intense, pleasurable experience that is notably different from clitoral orgasm.
This is why the combination of the clitoral orgasm as well as a G-spot orgasm make for such a full-body experience. Both spots when stimulated reveal a deep and intense pleasurable event.
How do I achieve a blended orgasm?
There are a couple of different ways to do this and you can do this solo or with a partner!
In order to have a blended orgasm on your own, you would start by using your fingers or a sex toy vaginally, lift upward toward your belly button in a “come hither” motion. Repeat this motion as sensation builds, using your focus to stimulate this area rather than using an in-and-out movement. Use lubrication! Especially if you’re nervous or haven’t really explored yourself vaginally before. It will make the experience much more pleasurable. With your other hand using fingers or a sex toy, start to work your clitoris. Apply fast hard motion using your fingers, palm, or sex toy of choice.
There are also many toys that are in a 'rabbit' shape that eliminate the use of both hands, allowing you to insert the shaft inside for G-spot stimulation and the clitoral outer nub to stimulate the clitoris.
If you have a partner, they can use their fingers or a sex toy to locate your G-spot mimicking the “come hither” motion. Your partner can also use their tongue and mouth to stimulate the clitoris while they do so. They can start kissing the area, then use the tip of their tongue to lick, starting slowly and increasing speed, pressure, and movement like up, down, or circular. The best sex positions for partner blended orgasms are:
- Cowgirl or reverse cowgirl
- Closed missionary position
- Doggy (without hands on the floor)
Remember every body is different and if any of these positions don’t work for you, you can always alter them to hit the right spots.
What types of toys can we use to achieve and enhance this experience?
The Hop collection from blush are great foundational toys that are a staple for blended orgasms. Rabbits are perfect for this because they contain clitoral and vaginal stimulation in one toy. This takes out much of the guessing work in finding a toy that really works in this situation. Especially when there are so many different sex toys to choose from in general!
Rabbit toys contain the controls necessary to customize the intensity of the internal and external stimulation. One thing to keep in mind when choosing a rabbit toy is: Do you like vibrational clitoral stimulation or do you prefer suction? Having the self knowledge to distinguish your pleasure preferences is important when choosing the right sex toy for you.
If you prefer vibrational clitoral stimulation the rabbit toys I recommend are:
These rabbit toys provide exceptional dual stimulation as well as equip you with the modules to control every part of your experience.
If you prefer suction:
This rabbit contains delicately tuned light sucking sensations via air pulse with 10 levels to choose from. This toy has a flexible clitoral arm that bends for perfect positioning around the clitoris.
Remember that not all of us get there the first time! Practice and get creative with exploring the different ways to bring yourself to pleasure. Trust your intuition and go with what feels good. Happy orgasming!
Written by Lucy Love